Abstract: “Feedback”and“Relay”are different upbringing patterns respectively in China and western countries. The difference of upbringing patterns reflects the difference of parent-child relationship. The reasons of the difference are the different development stage,different concept between east and west,etc. In the course of cultural intercommunication on parent-child relationship between east and west,we should not only carry forward such good traditions as respect the old and cherish the young,but also adopt such reasonable factor as fairness between parent and child in western countries,so that we can build up a harmonious society in which the old or young,male or female enjoy themselves together.

Key words: filial piety, fairness, parent-child relationship, upbringing patterns

摘要： “反哺”和“接力”分别是中西方家庭中处理养老问题的两种不同模式,模式的区别也反映了中西方亲子关系的差异。导致这种差异的原因主要是中西方所处的社会发展阶段不同、中西方伦理价值观念的冲突等四个方面所致。在代际亲子观念的东西文化交流过程中,我们既要继续发扬我国尊老爱幼的优良传统,又要吸取西方重视代际亲子关系平等的合理因素,建立一个不分年龄、人人共享的和谐社会。

关键词: 孝, 平等, 亲子关系, 养老模式